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The Double Cleansing: Why You Should Expect Corruption in Religion

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The Gospels record Jesus cleansing the temple in two places, once in John 2, near the beginning of His ministry, and again in the Synoptic Gospels (Matthew 21, Mark 11, Luke 19) during His final week.

Most of us probably remember this as one event. Some say it was one event remembered in different ways, or John organizing his Gospel thematically. But most of the Church Fathers took the accounts as separate. That reading makes the most sense. Jesus went up to Jerusalem each year. If he began and ended his public ministry by cleansing the temple, we should see that as deliberate. It bookends his ministry and indicates a very important message.

The temple was where people came to worship. But over time, it had become a place to make money. The traders and moneychangers set up shop in the outer courts. The poor had to pay extra. The outsiders were pushed aside. It was still called a house of prayer, but that name no longer matched what was happening inside.

Jesus does not ignore it. He drives them out. He flips the table not once, but twice. What was he confronting? He was confronting the way religion can be used to take advantage of people, especially the poor.

There will always be cunning minds ready to use religion for profit. That was true then and it is still true now. What I’m suggesting is that this is normal. We shouldn’t be scandalized by a greedy and corrupt church. The Gospels are not just stories. They show us the patterns we should expect throughout our life journeys.

So when we see corruption in our churches, or financial scandal, or religion used to squeeze the weak, we should not act surprised. This is what Jesus took pains to clean up twice deliberately, as if to underline the point: this is where religion is vulnerable, and this is where you need to join me in cleaning it up.

We were never promised clean institutions. We were called into them to take up this work. If you follow Jesus, you will face this same fight. Some tables may need to be flipped again.

It would be foolish to walk away from religion because of its corruptions, knowing full well that Jesus almost seemed more passionate about his religious system because of it. But it would also be ignorant to be scandalized by what you see. If the Lord took up a job twice, we should take double notice. Fully expect a corrupt religious system, and let the impurity be a fire in your belly to cleanse it so as to make way for a house of prayer.

Daycare and Detached Parenting: A Potentially Hidden Source of Trauma

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The Heartbreaking Reality of Daycare: Are We Failing Our Children?

The other day, I watched a TikTok video that has been on my mind ever since. It showed a typical scene at a daycare center: parents arriving to pick up their children at the end of the day. The moment the toddlers saw their parents, they began to cry. Not just whimper or shed a tear—full-on crying. These weren’t tears of joy or relief; they were tears of overwhelming emotion, likely a mix of stress, sadness, and confusion.

This video captured something that many of us overlook: the deep emotional toll that early separation takes on our children. It made me think hard about the current state of parenting and how, as a society, we might be failing our kids en masse by pushing them into these environments far too early.

A Troubling Trend: Convenience Over Children’s Well-being

This concern isn’t just about daycare. My wife recently had a conversation with a mother who mentioned that she had put her newborn on formula within the first month because it helped the baby sleep better, and by extension, allowed her to sleep better too. Now, I want to be clear: I have nothing against formula. It’s a lifesaver in situations where breastfeeding isn’t an option or when a mother’s health requires it. But this conversation wasn’t about necessity—it was about convenience.

What struck me was the underlying sentiment: that the mother’s comfort was taking precedence over the child’s potential long-term well-being. This mindset, where convenience often overrides the needs of the child, is becoming disturbingly common. And quite frankly, it’s disheartening.

The Evolutionary Argument for Maternal Care

From an evolutionary perspective, children are hardwired to be close to their mothers, especially in the early months and years. For most of human history, mothers and babies have been inseparable. This closeness wasn’t just a cultural norm; it was a biological necessity. Babies needed their mothers for food, protection, and, crucially, for emotional security.

Research supports the idea that early maternal bonding is critical. Studies on attachment theory have shown that infants who are securely attached to their primary caregivers—most often their mothers—tend to be more resilient, emotionally stable, and better equipped to handle stress as they grow. One study by Dr. Alan Sroufe and his colleagues at the University of Minnesota followed children over 30 years and found that those with secure attachments in infancy had better social and emotional outcomes in adulthood compared to those with insecure attachments.

But what happens when we disrupt this natural bond? Evidence suggests that early separation from the mother can lead to elevated cortisol levels (the stress hormone) in infants, which, over time, can negatively impact brain development and emotional regulation. Children who spend long hours in daycare, especially from a very young age, have been found to be more prone to behavioral issues, including aggression and anxiety. The more time infants spend in non-maternal care, the greater the risk of these negative outcomes.

Spiritual Perspective: The Sacred Bond of Motherhood

Motherhood is more than just a biological role—it’s a spiritual calling. Think of the Virgin Mary, a figure who embodies nurturing and sacrifice. Mary’s life was devoted to her son, Jesus, not just in a physical sense but in an emotional and spiritual one. She was there for every step of his early life, offering love, guidance, and prayers.

This sacred bond is something all mothers can strive for. It’s about more than just meeting the physical needs of a child; it’s about creating an environment where a child feels deeply loved and secure. It’s about being present—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. When we prioritize our comfort or societal expectations over this bond, we’re not just shortchanging our children; we’re missing out on a profoundly fulfilling aspect of motherhood.

The Modern Daycare Dilemma

Daycare, especially for very young children, often falls short of meeting these emotional and developmental needs. The environment in most daycares is far from ideal—crowded, impersonal, and at times, downright stressful. While daycares can be necessary, especially for families who need two incomes to get by, we need to be honest about what we’re sacrificing.

Do you believe modern society is healthy? Do you think the kids are alright? Are we all doing mentally well as a society? If not, why in God’s name are we continuing to stay the course of this zeitgeist, doing what everyone else is doing? Why is no one questioning what could possibly be wrong with the most formative times of our lives?

Consider this: We live in an era where rates of anxiety, depression, and other mental health disorders are at an all-time high, even among children. Could it be that our early choices—like separating infants from their mothers, relying on daycares to raise our kids, and prioritizing convenience over connection—are contributing to this crisis?

The Ideal Childhood: A Call for Reconnecting with Parental Roles

So, what does an ideal childhood look like? It’s one where parents, especially mothers, are present during the formative years. It’s a childhood where children don’t have to cry in daycare because they’ve been with the people they need most—those who love them unconditionally. It’s a childhood where small sacrifices by parents, like adjusting work schedules or cutting back on non-essential expenses, lead to a stronger, healthier, and happier child.

I’m not saying that staying home full-time is feasible for every family. But I am saying that we should strive to maximize the time we spend with our children, especially when they are very young. Whether it’s reducing work hours, working from home, or finding other creative solutions, we need to make our children’s well-being a priority.

Questioning Our Motives

Why do we send kids to daycare? Why do we care so much about getting them out of the house and into activities all day? Is it because we genuinely believe it’s better for them—or is it because it’s more convenient for us? Are we, as parents, simply trying to create space in our lives, whether to work more, have some peace, or even just to keep up with societal expectations?

Let’s be honest: a lot of the time, it’s about money. We work longer hours and send our kids to daycare so we can make more money. But why do we need so much money? Often, it’s to buy things we don’t need, to impress people we don’t even like. We’re caught in a cycle of consumption that’s disconnected from what really matters.

But what if we stopped to question this cycle? What if, instead of focusing on getting our kids out of the house, we focused on bringing them closer? What if we prioritized time with our children over making more money, over buying more stuff, over fitting in with what everyone else is doing?

The most important thing we can give our children isn’t found in a store or a paycheck. It’s our presence, our love, and our attention. It’s time spent together, forming bonds that will last a lifetime. So before we send them off to daycare, or sign them up for endless activities, let’s ask ourselves: what are we really working for, and at what cost?